The Attachment Style Reset LIVE Session Replays

Day 1 Live Session

Day 1 Homework 

Reflection: Connecting with Your Parts

These questions are meant to help you gently connect with the parts of you that are carrying old, painful beliefs — not to judge or fix them, but to understand and eventually unburden them.

1. What’s a recurring negative belief you’ve noticed lately?
   (e.g. “I’m not enough,” “I’ll always be alone,” “I’m too much,” “I have to earn love”)

2. When this belief is active, how do you feel emotionally and physically?

3. Can you sense a part of you that holds this belief?
   (Is it younger? Protective? Fearful? Angry? Anxious? Where do you feel it in your body?)

4. What does this part believe about you, others, or the world?

5. How does this part try to protect you by holding this belief?
   (What is it afraid might happen if it didn’t believe this?)

6. What role has this part played in your life up until now?
   (What has it been trying to do for you?)

7. If this part had a voice, what would it say it needs?

8. Can you locate where this part lives in your body? What does it feel like (tense, heavy, cold, etc.)?

9. Are there other parts connected to this belief? (e.g. a part that criticizes, a part that tries to numb or fix)

10. What happens in your system when you offer this part curiosity, not judgment?

Empowerment & Letting Go: Releasing Old Beliefs & Connecting to Your “Why”

These questions help move the client toward Self-energy, clarity, and motivation to shift into a new internal belief system.

11. Is the belief this part holds absolutely true — 100% of the time, in every situation?

12. Where did this belief come from originally?
    (Was it modeled to you? Implied in childhood? Formed during a painful experience?)

13. What has believing this cost you — emotionally, relationally, spiritually?

14. How has this belief kept you separate from others? From your Self?

15. What would your life feel like without this belief?

16. Who would you be if you no longer carried this belief?

17. What new belief or truth do you, your adult Self, know is more accurate and supportive now?

18. Can you recall a memory or moment that supports this new truth?

19. What emotion comes up when you connect to this new belief?

20. What is your why for letting go of this old belief system?
    (What kind of life are you choosing to move toward?)

21. What kind of relationships would you have if this belief no longer led your decisions?

22. How do you want to feel — about yourself, about love, about your future?

Day 2 Live Session

Creating Safety in the Body & Responding to Triggers

1. When I feel triggered, what sensations show up in my body—and how do I usually respond to them?

2. Is there a part of me that feels unsafe right now? Can I locate it in my body and ask what it needs?

3. What would it feel like to stay with the discomfort rather than fix it right away? Can I offer breath or grounding to this part instead?

4. What past experience does this trigger remind me of? How old does this wounded part of me feel?

5. If I could speak directly to the part of me that feels panicked, ashamed, or afraid, what would I say to help it feel safe and seen?

Meeting Wounded/Burdened Parts

6. What burdens is this part of me carrying (e.g., “I’m unworthy,” “I’m too much,” “I’ll be abandoned”)? Are those beliefs still true today?

7. What role has this part played in protecting me? Can I acknowledge it, even if its strategies no longer serve me?

Inner Child Healing & Self-Worth Repair

8. What messages did I receive about my emotions growing up? How did those messages teach me to hide, shrink, or invalidate myself?

9. What did my inner child need to hear, feel, or see that they never got? Can I offer that now, in my own words and tone?

10. If I believed I was already enough and lovable as I am, how would I care for this younger part of me when she/he/they feel triggered or overwhelmed?

Day 3 Live Session

Day 3 Homework 

🌿 Reflection Questions for Identifying & Expressing Your Needs

1. When do I feel most emotionally nourished in a relationship? What’s happening in those moments?

2. What situations or behaviors from a partner make me feel anxious, ignored, or unseen?

3. If I could ask for anything in a relationship without fear of rejection or abandonment, what would I ask for?

4. What am I afraid might happen if I fully express what I need?

5. Where in my body do I feel discomfort when I suppress my needs? What happens if I stay with that sensation?

6. Whose voice do I hear when I tell myself my needs are too much or inconvenient? Is that voice really mine?

7. What did I learn about asking for what I needed as a child? How is that belief still showing up now?

8. What do I actually need in moments I feel triggered or reactive in relationships? (Beyond the urge to control or retreat.)

9. What would it look like to stay connected to myself and ask for what I need at the same time?

10. How can I remind myself that my needs are valid, even if someone else can’t meet them? What’s a mantra or truth I can return to?